Loyalty is the toxic mimic of devotion, and my dear lover, we are being called to worship.

We are often celebrated for our abstract and advanced language, and our forgiving and flexible nature. Especially as women.

The more frozen we are, the more successful we tend to be. Because somehow, we've managed to successfully control our way through a truly debilitating defense mechanism.

Self worth means you have the capacity for self recognition. It means you see yourself for who you actually are: brilliant and divine. It means you put value on how you show up in the world. On your time. On your attention. On what you have to offer the world as a unique and special entity that could only possibly ever come from you.

We all know that where we judge others, we judge ourselves more severely. But did you know that what we recognize, adore, admire, and look up to in others are also actually breadcrumbs for that very exact thing existing in us.

Sometimes I want to be arrived already, and of course the further down this path I get, the clearer I am that the only thing I could ever possibly know is who I am, and that that journey is a lifelong, perpetually unfolding, relationship.