To me one thing was clear: what he truly wanted was permission to live in the fullest expression of his truth, unbound by convention, no longer shackled by the crippling fear of not belonging in an already isolating human experience.

How do you know whether you want monogamy or polyamory or something else entirely? Ask the relationship.

For a long time I thought there must be an elusive thing I was missing. Like, some relationship gene that didn't get passed down to me. I looked at it like this failure in my life, and all the while, I was not actually taking active measures to date.