When we see our partners or potential suitors as projects, we create the very thing we’re trying to prevent, and repel the thing we want the most in partnership.

I had, in my early childhood development, conflated angst and fear with love. And so I was hyper vigilant in my connections with people whom I got close with, and it would literally drive me crazy.

The days of righteous and justified feminism are over. We get nowhere so long as we blame men for our misfortunes, or worse, give up on them entirely.

Good sex has nothing to do with skill. It has to do with clarity, willingness, communication, presence, and attention.