Feel (and hear and see) the vibration.
According to all the books, our sensory input can be compartmentalized. According to my experience, this is just a symptom of someone's desperate need to control something that is difficult to understand and is largely still a mystery.
Your "boundaries" feel like shit.
Boundaries exist at a deeply intuitive level. They are often not voiced. They exist so deeply and so intuitively that other people instinctively follow them.