Did you know that the MAJORITY of the population is currently running in what is called "sympathetic dominance" which means that their sympathetic nervous system (fight/flight/freeze) is running on overdrive while the parasympathetic nervous system (rest and repair) has no energy left to do its job?

The freeze defense mechanism has horribly detrimental, but also very silent, effects on the body, our health, and the way we interpret our experience of the world around us, and spanking contributes to that.

A lot of people ask me how they can know what their truth is. We live in a world where we are practically inundated by everyone else's truth from dawn until dusk, and often, we struggle to know what is true for ourselves.

As humans evolve, we have grown to be more sophisticated in the ways in which we protect ourselves, perceiving threat (either real or imagined) while simultaneously being hyper attuned to socially acceptable behavioral mechanisms that will ensure our “safety.” 

The more frozen we are, the more successful we tend to be. Because somehow, we've managed to successfully control our way through a truly debilitating defense mechanism.

Sexual assault is a thing. Even when we try to not make it a thing, try to make it disappear, try to pretend it doesn't exist. And it happens to more people than we think. And to all genders.