You need to know that it is not necessary to “understand” or have lived someone else’s pain in order to bond.

How do you know the difference between having needs and being needy? Where do your attachments obstruct your growth?

Your needs are the juice which makes life vibrant and they are the marrow of healthy relationships.

Most people do not have the sovereignty to self-soothe an activated nervous system under a vast range of life circumstances, and, our work as adults is to move in this direction.

Everybody has different needs. True needs are never in conflict with one another.

If you think you don’t have reactions, chances are likely they’re just invisible.

When we are willing to investigate all aspects of ourselves, and our behavior, we get free.

Judgment is not the same thing as sight, and vigilance is not the same thing as perceptivity.

Indifference and resignation are cues that we’re living someone else’s life. It’s a clue from our soul that we’ve veered off-track.

To know your Reactivity Blueprint is like getting the keys to your own castle.

Knowing and taking care of your needs is core to any healing work and all transformation.

To not be satisfied and at peace in your life requires significantly more work than you realize to maintain.

We cannot transform alone. Refusing to ask for support is perhaps one of the biggest barriers obstructing growth.

If we’ve only been seeped in dysfunction, we will instinctively normalize that behavior, not understanding that healthy people relate in a completely different way.

When you are guided by an idea that you want something someone else has you are way more susceptible to making decisions which are ultimately out of alignment for you.

You may feel like the odd-(wo)man out when you take inventory of the dysfunction of your family of origin, but did you know how rare it actually is to be raised by emotionally mature adults? So rare it deserves to be a statistic.

There are books which add complexity and confusion, and there are books which strip away the layers so you can see yourself more clearly. Read on to learn the difference.

No one wants to consider themselves as manipulative. And therein lies the very source of our collective blindness to it.

To prioritize living well you must learn to take exquisitely good care of yourself, no matter what. What some inspiration for where to start? Continue reading to learn where I prioritize my self-care.