Without understanding how and why it happens, we inadvertently recreate the very dynamics we abhorred from our childhood, and pin our unmet needs from the past, and the expectations we have about intimacy, onto our partner(s), instead.

My mom and I had a rough go of it for the first 33 years of my life. We saw eye to eye on very little and generally didn’t understand one another. Read on to learn how we healed our relationship.

How is it possible for us to experience both union and sovereignty in relationship? Where do these experiences originate from?

How do you know whether you want monogamy or polyamory or something else entirely? Ask the relationship.

We're inclined to think that finding love is sort of like winning the lottery. I hear my clients say all the time that there aren't enough good men or women out there, that you have to be careful about whom you invest in, that dating is so hard, yadda yadda yadda.

When we see our partners or potential suitors as projects, we create the very thing we’re trying to prevent, and repel the thing we want the most in partnership.

Three places where you’re probably out of integrity and what to do about it.

Loyalty is the toxic mimic of devotion, and my dear lover, we are being called to worship.

I had, in my early childhood development, conflated angst and fear with love. And so I was hyper vigilant in my connections with people whom I got close with, and it would literally drive me crazy.

How do you get to be yourself around your family members without burning the house down? 

Where are you preventing yourself from experiencing truly profound connection? 

We need each other. We are interdependent, perfectly incomplete and equally vital and valuable.

For a long time I thought there must be an elusive thing I was missing. Like, some relationship gene that didn't get passed down to me. I looked at it like this failure in my life, and all the while, I was not actually taking active measures to date.

Sometimes I want to be arrived already, and of course the further down this path I get, the clearer I am that the only thing I could ever possibly know is who I am, and that that journey is a lifelong, perpetually unfolding, relationship.