How to be present and fully-expressed.

Print by Tim Jonke

Print by Tim Jonke

If you were to equate your truth with a physical part of yourself, you opting to then not share it, would mean holding back a visible part of you who are.

As a result, other people may have the experience that you're not fully present, that they don't have your undivided attention, and often, unconsciously, they will respond in kind by not giving you *their* full attention, or by holding back *their* truth, too.

We have the power to have so much impact on the planet by shifting this one tiny thing. By choosing to share MORE of ourselves, not less (and I don't mean by steamrolling people with your unprocessed emotions, to be clear). Maybe the visualization of this image will help you remember what withdrawal and holding back feels like. In yourself, and when you experience it in others.

Because this image isn't that far from the truth. If what is happening in the world were materialized visually, this is exactly what it would look like. We'd be surrounded by a bunch of people with holes in various parts of their bodies walking down the street like it's no big deal.

When someone is fully present, sharing their fullest expression of self, giving you their undivided attention, *you feel it*. You may not be able to give it words, but you might say something like "I feel safe with you" or "I feel like I'm important in your presence" or you just may experience that you feel empowered and expansive and a little more courageous than usual.

I believe most of us genuinely want other people to feel good around us. I believe most of us genuinely want to feel good around other people.

In order to be able to do this for others well, we MUST be fully expressed in the truth of who we are, first. The way we learn how to be fully expressed in the truth of who we are around others is to practice being fully expressed in the truth of who we are around them, and to keep chipping away at that until it feels natural. That means we allow our cells to radiate at full capacity and continue to move the marker further out as often as necessary.

That means allowing ourselves to become limitless in our wholeness.


While the big work is often the most visible, the more refined and nuanced work of that last 5% of self-expression is always the most fun and rewarding. If you’d like to carve out the final layers of your authentic expression and think coaching might be for you, let’s talk.