What boundaries and energetic hygiene look like.

Love. Light. And a boat load of unapologetic ferocity.

Let the record state that my default response to projection and unsolicited advice is one of diplomatic grace. I love to say thank you when people reveal to me their inner war. Even if I didn’t ask for it. To me, they are merely showing me their truth (even if they think what they are doing is showing me mine).

And. If someone has not asked me for consent before unloading their projections and charge on me, I ask for them to next time.

And if I they continue the behavior: they get immediately removed from my field. If this occurs online, that means blocking them. If it happens in person (which is admittedly incredibly rare; people seem to feel a lot safer to exude this behavior when protected by a screen), then I remove myself, no matter how inconvenient it is for me to do so. I do this without remorse; I don’t spend time getting resentful about it.

I want to be clear here. I do not waste my energy on people who are unwilling to listen. If a person is so caught up in what they are experiencing in their own body, no matter how righteous and justified they think they are, that they have lost their ability to hear, then them being in my field becomes a swift energy suck for me.

Whatever conditioning you have around the term love and light, make no mistake: it does not mean being flaccid. To fiercely love a person means to refuse to meet them in their not-self place, no matter how badly they want you to meet them there. To be devoted to love and light includes honoring that in yourself, at any cost.

No matter how personal the jab, their attachment to it is theirs, not mine. And although in my close, consensual, intimate relationships there is always room for humanity, nervous system dysregulation, triggers, miscommunication…a person who has not established a relationship with me which demonstrates mutual respect is not going to get my time of day if they are incapable of listening.

I am unapologetically fierce here and being unapologetically fierce here has been THE game changer in my own growth.