Finding power in the unknown.
"I don't know."
Three seemingly value-neutral words.
A sentence that evokes A LOT for most people.
For some, not knowing feels dangerous. It effects our livelihood, our worth, and our value.
For others it means we're inferior, out of control, not good enough.
We live in a world with answers. We live in a mind where questions demand them. And instantaneously.
And it's slowly killing us.
One of the fundamental principals of coaching is that the learning in a session is self-directed. Which is to say, the coach assumes the client is resourceful, that they possess the answers they need, but that those answers are hidden from conscious awareness.
What follows is that coaching is not the act of providing answers, but rather, of expanding conscious awareness.
This can be excruciatingly frustrating for many clients. Particularly those who are deeply uncomfortable with the unknown.
Not being given answers, and being put into a state where we have no choice but to evoke our OWN answers, will definitely trigger self worth issues, amongst a variety of other things.
Because HOW DO WE KNOW THAT OUR OWN ANSWERS ARE THE RIGHT ONES?!